Question on making costom factions & sovrends via XLM

Look in the CoreAbilities.xml file, which is found  in Stardock Games\FallenEnchantress\data\English.

Both unit and player/faction traits are in there.

Also you can get a list of all faction abilities by simply using the in game faction editor.

dose that include abilitys limmited to spesific race's or factions? or abilitys or skills that can only be used by certian hero's/champions?

Yes those are in there, although things like spells and items unlocked through traits are in different files. For example spells are located  in the CoreSpells.xml file.

thx what would the code to add a spesific spell to a char be? i know for an ability its

<SelectedAbilityBonusOption>Brilliant</SelectedAbilityBonusOption>

<SelectedAbilityBonusOption>Life1</SelectedAbilityBonusOption>

for like life 1 & briliant skill is it the same code? or a dif code to make it work?

if i wanted to add a spefic spell to a char's abilitys

one of the problems ive run into in the past is i tryed to make a char have a level 5 magic skill

however when i did.. it skiped the learning of all the sub spells. 

can i have it do like magic level 1,2,3 ect to unlock the books code looking like

<SelectedAbilityBonusOption>Life1</SelectedAbilityBonusOption>

<SelectedAbilityBonusOption>Life2</SelectedAbilityBonusOption>

<SelectedAbilityBonusOption>Life3</SelectedAbilityBonusOption>

will this make problems for me? or even work since im adding the same skill multiable times? or do i have to add each abililty independently that i want?

That's how you should do it, you have to add each level of spellbook separately.