stoopid
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i have been giving some mental airplay to my "failures" lately. i find it strange how we all tend to carry around a big bag of 'regrets' that is full of our 'mistakes', our 'miscalculations', the chances we didn't take, the words we didn't say ... our 'what if's'
now imagine for a moment that you didn't have them. any of them.
you never did anything 'wrong'. you always knew exactly what to do. hindsight was yours, and it never failed you. you lived your entire life, and you never made a single mistake. not even one.
who do you think you might be right now ?.
for example, if i took back the ‘mistakes’ in my life ... the things that challenged me horribly yet i somehow survived ... i wonder who i might be ?
i may have lived my entire life thinking that i could never have the guts to voice what i think and stand by it even in personal distress. i may have never known this amazing freedom i have now.
anybody can still attack me, this is true. but there is not much to be had in the way of anyone being able to use their shitty opinion as a barb against me these days. i guess you'd call that learning.
i've learned to look at my mistakes for what they are ... they are the times i took a chance. okay, so i didn't always win, but those were the times when i had to walk blind and do just do my best with what i had.
my mistakes were usually big, but i'd never take back a single one. i can just never know which trial it was that gave me which part of the person i am now. nobody can.
in wishing our mistakes away, we are wishing ourselves away. wishing to wipe ourselves clean to some robotically-perfect standard of behaviour. it is our mistakes that make us. and if you don't believe me, listen to the experts ...
"if you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. what we call failure is not the falling down but the staying down" ~ mary pickford
“the man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything else either" ~ edward j. phelps
"nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one's mistakes" ~ oscar wilde
"freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes" ~ mahatma gandi
... and my personal fave ... is anyone still reading this ?
"if i had to live my life again, i'd make the same mistakes, only sooner" ~ tallulah bankhead
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