Who, What, When, Where, Why, How...........

Are you my friend?

Who, What, When, Where, Why, How???!!! Those are the same fimillar(sp?) questions that most friends will ask you when you have a story to tell them about something that happened. But are they wanting to hear about it so you can stay up late talking on the phone or at a sleep over. Do they want to hear it because they want to help you with what you're dealing with? Or is it just because they have to know everything that goes on with everyone? That's what I wonder sometimes when I'm telling a friend something. It always goes through my mind. "Do they really care? Are they even listening?" It always makes me itch with anticapation(sp?) Well you all know how girls are with their secrets they tell. Which brings me to another topic of being friends.

Me and my girl friends tell secrets all the time. Even my and my guy friends. Well, some of them. But it really doesn't matter if you are a guy or girl. I mean, do my friends, no matter what gender, just listen to my secrets so that they can go and tell everyone else? Or do they really mean that they'll keep it no matter who or what wants to know? Well so far I have only found one person that has been able to keep every secret or personal thing that I have told them. And no, it's not one of my best girl friends. It's actually my best guys friend that I have in the world. And you all know him on here. It happens to be Brandon(aka: Capt. Cornbread) I don't think I could ask for a better friend than him. I honestly don't know what I would do with out him. So Brandon if you read this, I just want to say thank you so so so so so much for being there when I needed you most. I can't thank you enough. I guess the way i want to thank you, is in a way words will never be able to discribe. So thanx! :)

Anyways.........Usually every stinking time I tell a secret it always gets out to people. I think I have a clue as to who is doing this, but I won't mention who it is or what gender they are, just because of you guys that go to my school on here.

Why do we tell secrets? Isn't it a dirty little way of gettting revenge, like when we start a rumor? I don't even have the slightest clue. I don't think anyone does. I sometimes wish that there was no such thing as a secret. We should all be able to tell people what we think of them, or w/e it maybe that we have on our minds. That leads me to another point. You see, I have this really big crush on a certain someone that will not be mentioned here. I've liked him for quit sometime. I don't know if he likes me or not. I really don't want to talk to him about it, because i'm kinda afraid that I will scare him off, or make a complete fool out of myself. All of my girl friends are all like, "Why don't you just ask him out?" Then they tell me, " Just do it, I know he really likes you. He's just doesn't want to admit it." Personally myself, I don't see how they can tell that he likes me. Most of them tell me that it's the way he flirts with me. Others say that it's the "sweet" little way that he makes eye contact with me. I just don't see it. I don't know why either. I would do anything (well almost) to get him to like me. But this is where the secrets come in once again. I have to talk about it with my other friends. It's just hard for me to go to the guy and tell him straight out that I like him. I do pray that my friends are right when they say that he likes me. I've been thinking about this a lot. Especally since school has been out. I've been trying to get up all my courage to ask him out, but I still have that little voice in my head telling me to hold back. When they say he flirts with me, yeah I can kinda see that part. I mean even if you don't like someone, usually you flirt with them and they normally flirt back. But they sweet little eye contact part is the part that i'm really not seeing. Maybe it's just me. Maybe, my mind has this block in my brain that won't let me see that he really does like me. I think it's because i'm afraid of rejection. And that's why my mind won't let me see that he does like me. I dunno. I'm pretty sure there are only about two people on JU that I've talked to this about. But I won't mention them either. Not that I don't trust them not to tell anything. Just a little mind security thing. These two are the only two I can talk to about. Or i guess, the people I feel like, are my friends that don't care if it's a bunch of gossip, or a problem I may have. I know they are my true friends because they have been there to help me and to talk with me when i need someone.

I guess what I consider as a friend is someone who will stay on the phone or on the internet for hours, at like midnight and talk to me. Listen to me whine and cry about something. They are always there and are ready to lend me their shoulder to cry on. I know that Brandon is one of them, just because of the fact that he's one of the few of my friends that have seen me cry over something. Not too many of my friends have ever seen my cry. Even the ones that have who I have been friends with almost all my life, sometimes don't want to listen to me or stop for me and let me cry. I think he's only seen my cry once since we've known each other. Which has been exactly one year on thursday. He let me talk to him about the problem and was there for me to give his full advice. I'm not trying to base this article on Brandon, and all he's done to be the best friend that I have. But it's relieving to let this out, about how i feel with out getting to sensitive about certain things. The reason I mention him the most is because he truly is the "perfect" friend. At least in my heart he is.

So I'm going to end this with one question.....................................

Are you my friend?

Or are you just here to read my articles and not give a squat and put what you think just for the heck? Do you really put what you think of my articles? Or do you just put nice things to make me feel good about myself and what I write?

If your answer to any of these is not what a true friend would answer, then I guess I'm not good enough to be your friend. You must be too good for me then. not to sound harsh or anything, but that's just the way I feel about this.

Thank you for all who support me,
~carebear~
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Reply #1 Top
sorry, i made a mistake. I said I would only end with one question. But after the one question there are some "side" questions. My bad. I wasn't thinking correctly. lol.

~carebear~
Reply #2 Top
I suppose I'm your friend if you want me to be....I give advice...it's a talent....I can also read people when I'm around them......so I'm good at the whole love affair advice giving thing....so, I'm here for anyone if you need me....and I guess I'd qualify as a friend...I keep secrets locked inside and usually forget them before I spill'em....lol

Later,
~Zoo
Reply #3 Top
We don't talk a whole lot, but I'll listen to ya if you ever need anything. I agree about your definition of a friend, along with other qualities. My friends put up with SO much from me, stuff that's too serious for me to even talk about in the first place. I reckon it's getting pretty old and it's only a matter of time before they shoot me, but you know how that goes.

And yes, I only read your articles for the points and don't give a squat.
Reply #4 Top
I think your selling yourself short. Anyone as young as you that thinks about heavy topics and actually takes the time to wonder if others care, shows that you yourself care. That's a worthy reason to be friends
Reply #5 Top
Zoo~Yeah, I already know how good you are on giving advice on the relationship topics. lol. Seeing that you've given me advice before. Of course you're my friend. Why wouldn't you be. If I didn't want you to be my friend I wouldn't talk to you and sit at your end of the lunch table to talk to you, brandon, and alex.

apdelong~ Yeah you're right we don't talk a whole lot. But probably because we really didn't start talking untill this school year. Which is partly Shaun's fault. lol. But I'm glad that we're friends. I used to think that you were some popular guy that didn't give a squat for kids like me. Guess it goes to show you shouldn't judge a book by its cover. Now I see differently of you. My friends put up with my crap a lot too. But hey, you'll have that. I knew that you only read this to get the points anyways so I really don't care about you! I hate you! No not really. If I hated you I wouldn't waste my time talking to you. But yeah, thanx for lisening to my bs.

Greenfarie~Thanx. Maybe I am selling myself short, ya think? I dunno. Maybe I shouldn't think about these things. But it's kinda hard not to. And I know almost everyone has probably thought about it atleast once in their life time. I'm glad you see that it's a worthy reason to be friends! thanks!

~carebear~